Learn the art of patience. Apply discipline to your thoughts when they become anxious over the outcome of a goal. Impatience breeds anxiety, fear, discouragement and failure. Patience creates confidence, decisiveness, and a rational outlook, which eventually leads to success.
Brian Adams -- author

Q: What advice do you offer people who need to improve their patience quotient?

A: If you have a tendency to act and react impatiently, you have to work at replacing bad habits with good habits. Bad habits hinder our effectiveness and ultimate success. Good habits, on the other hand, help position us for success and help us reach our goals. Take a hard look at your home and work habits, and compile an honest listing of the bad and good. Do you routinely end your work day early…or leave several ‘To-Do’ items undone? Do you have good intentions of getting to the office early to plan your day…yet arrive 15 minutes late because you stopped for coffee…ran into an old friend…got to talking…? Can your co-workers and clients count on you to follow through with the paperwork you promised? Do you have good (productive) weeks…and less-than-good (unproductive) weeks? Are you short with others – or quick to lose your temper? Do you have good ideas – but something routinely keeps you from acting? The key, of course, is to replace bad habits with good habits. The best things in life (and business) require hard work – and often waiting for the best to develop. Fortunately, patience is a virtue you can work on and improve. [See the accompanying sidebar for more tips on upping your patience quotient.]

Q: Can people actually see better results by becoming more patient? It seems a little counterintuitive…

A: Yes. And, I know, and my clients will push back on this point. They’ll say, ‘No, I need to just keep pushing!’ In fact, patience, planning and perseverance are all related – and they are keys to success in sales. They’re also sustainable factors. Being patient means you can achieve your goals without experiencing frustration – or an unnecessary rise in blood pressure. Patience enables you to take things in stride – even the occasional (and inevitable) roadblock or setback. Patience allows you to be a better person – and a person others feel comfortable around – which ultimately helps you form richer personal and professional relationships. Finally, patience helps foster healthy self-esteem. You can constantly remind yourself, ‘I can handle that. I know I can make that happen. I’m comfortable with achieving that goal next month.’

Patience Rx

Patience is the best remedy for every trouble.
Titus Maccius Plautus, well-known Roman playwright

If you need to add a little more patience to your work (or life) perspective, try these steps:

  • Identify your stressors. What things (or situations) make you lose your cool? Is it a chock-full daily schedule? Phone interruptions? A line at the grocery store? You may feel anxious, frustrated, unhappy, or worried…and not even realize impatience may be the actual culprit. Maybe you’re trying to over-commit yourself every day. Maybe you need to reserve 30 minutes each day to return phone calls or text messages. Once you know what can easily trigger impatience, you can work to avoid these situations…or take steps to relax yourself before impatience escalates.
  • Let some stuff go. Did some insensitive clod cut in front of your car? Is your assistant asking for your help (again!) with the month-end reports? Are you anxiously waiting for a prospective business partner to call you back? Sometimes the best thing to do is nothing when it comes to managing patience…sometimes it’s helpful to take a couple deep breaths…and sometimes you’ll benefit from taking specific action on your behalf. Watch the merging maniac speed away. Offer to lend your expertise (and undivided attention) to your assistant and the reports after you finish your current task. Make the call you’re waiting for yourself.
  • Do something that takes some time and effort. A highly enjoyable and rewarding way to discover the benefits of patience is to take up a hobby that’s going to require time and effort. Or, plan an activity you’d normally eschew because you can’t be bothered with it. Put together a 1,000-piece jigsaw puzzle. Hand wash and wax your car. Play bocce for an entire weekend afternoon. Pick fruit or vegetables at an organic farm. Make dinner from scratch tonight. Knead bread dough, and wait for it to rise three times.
  • Focus on what’s important. No one likes to waste time, and no one wants to wait for things unnecessarily. But, if we can slow ourselves down and focus on what’s truly important, we’ll enjoy the journey so much more. Remember…just about everything in life that’s truly worthwhile takes time, effort or dedication – or all three. If you’re in too big of a rush you may just miss the turn you should take…or miss connecting with someone special who can help you reach your goals.

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